I have a drink problem - Professional opinion

[Lori Jordan]

I went through somewhat of the same thing My mother was an alcholic when i was a teenager she had somewhat of reasoning to why she was like that,My dad left her with 5 kids to raise on her own,she struggled and did the best she could then when i was 18 i lost my 25 year old brother he got himself into drugs and all the rest that follows and he was found in an alley was stabbed to death,I thought for sure my mother was done for,her and my deceased brother had not talked for 2 months then she gets the call he is gone.Could you imagine? i don't know what i would do if i lost any of my children,Anyways she continued drinking until i was around 24 and she quit completly no meetings nothing she seen she had to get through her life and she wanted more than having a Title as an Alcholic
I wish you all the best while you are working through this!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Hmmmm....do you mean drinking during the lunch hour during the work week? I can't say that it typical where I live. Most people refrain from drinking during the workday, though it would help the attitudes, possibly.

And, what is a shandy?

I'm afraid I do. Shandy is a mix of beer or lager with lemonade

[Cataholic]

EW, gross. Beer and anything seems gross to me. But, lemonade?

Well, good on you for quitting during the lunchhour, and all other times!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

EW, gross. Beer and anything seems gross to me. But, lemonade?

Its not the lemonade made from real lemons but still pretty revolting

[slick]

Actually, when I was in England many, many moons ago I had a shandy for the first time and loved it. It was actually a Lager and Lime. Is that a shandy?

Speaking about drinking at lunchtime, when I was in my early twenties, a group of us used to hit the local pub and have 4 beer and a burger each then head back to work. After work, we'd head over there again and close the place down then go for something to eat and get to bed around 3am. Had no problems getting up at 6am to go to work the next day. Could never, ever dream of doing that now. A glass of wine at lunch and I'm asleep by 2pm.

Brody, I've been following this thread and I have the utmost respect and admiration for you. To come on a public board like this and reveal a drinking problem is something I could never do. I have not had much contact with alcoholics but have learned a great deal through reading this thread. Thank you (and the others who have posted) for sharing your stories and thoughts. You go girl!!! I'm on the sidelines cheering you on. {{{hugs}}}

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Lager and lime is a different drink but the same sort of theory - let's just say its an acquired taste.

Glad this post has helped others as well as little old me!

[Lori Jordan]

They have a pill now that you can take and if you drink it makes you massivly sick has anybody ever been introduced to it?

[Catty1]

It's called Antabuse. I never have had to take it, and I am glad.

I'd take the fellowship, growth and support of AA any day!

Catty1

[moosmom]

When I was a paramedic, we used to pick up balkies (aka drunks) off the street who would drink, despite taking antibuse, which made them deathly sick. It's a great drug by itself, but God forbid you should drink!! The side effects are NASTY!!!!

[carole]

Antabuse has been around for over twenty years now, my ex was taking it and yes he did drink on it and yes he was very ill, had to be hospitalised, mind you it gave me some peace of mind.

A shandy is the only alcoholic drink that i would drink now, i actually hate the taste of alcohol, it is beer with a little bit of what you guys call 7 up or sprite, and it is yummy.,Trouble is it is very easy to drink a lot of them not realising it can still make you quite drunk.

kEEP up the good work Denise, you are doing SO GREAT.!!!

[RedHedd]

What I lack in height (5ft 2) I make up for in willpower!!!

Please be careful with that willpower. From the voice of experience of another short (5'1") sober drunk (me), there will come a time when willpower won't work. I can tell you're just like a lot of us - very stubborn and thinking you're different. I'm not trying to be mean, but I am concerned for your wellbeing. You're doing well now, but PLEASE go to an AA meeting and pick up the "Big Book" and a copy of Living Sober.

[carole]

I have the very same concerns that Redhedd does for you Denise,i wonder if what Dr Phil says about loosing weight applies in this instance too, he swears it is not about willpower.

I really hope you can continue your sobriety,but please don't be afraid or too stubborn to reach out for help if you need it, always here for ya, take care.

[moosmom]

Carol and RedHedd are right. Although Willpower will get you part of the way, there will come a time when you'll find yourself wrestling with whether or not you can "handle it". Please get to meetings and find a sponsor. It'll get better before it gets worse. Been there, done that!!

[lizbud]

Everytime I see this thread it reminds me of a old movie called
"Days Of Wine & Roses" (It was released in 1962) Starred Jack Lemmon
and Lee Remmick. It was my introduction to this disease & how powerful
and the addiction can be. It was very unusual to discuss real human
problems in a film. Here's the story line,

Storyline

Genres: Romance, Drama
Tagline: This, in its own terrifying way, is a love story.
Plot Outline An alcoholic falls in love with and gets married to a young woman, whom he systematically addicts to booze so they can share his "passion" together.
Plot Synopsis: Boy (with drinking problem) meets girl (with addiction to chocolate). They fall in love, get married and have a beautiful baby girl. But the picture perfect family is anything but perfect. Joe has introduced his wife Kristen to the "pleasures" of drinking and soon both are confirmed alcoholics. An absorbing, frightening study of the insidiousness of addiction.

I recommend it to those who cannot seem to understand how addiction
can sneak up on people. and how hard it is to admit the problem and seek
help.

[moosmom]

Lizbud,

"Days of Wine and Roses" GREAT movie!!! Jack Lemmon and Lee Remick (?) did a great job! The movie hit very close to home and is worth watching over again.

Another good movie is "The Lost Weekend" with Ray Miland.