Debby,

Definitely send a thank you note. Like everyone said, she could've have just thrown them out. That was nice of her. And cherish the things she sent you.

When my Dad passed away, I was left with everything he had (which wasn't much, believe me). I didn't get along with my stepmother either. We also tolerated each other for my Dad's sake. She died before he did so I didn't have any problems. Except for my youngest stepsister. After her mother died, she stole the rings my Dad gave to her mother. I went and retrieved them from her, promising her I'd give them to her when my father passed away, as they really had no signifigance to me. I did just that. Never heard from her or the other 2 wicked stepsisters ever again. That suits me just fine.

Be greatful your stepmother sent you the things she did. Now you don't have to be bothered with her. Sorry about your Dad's passing.