What should I do?

[Corinna]

I agree be a class act . thank her she didn't have to return them .

[Lobodeb]

Does it change anyone's mind knowing that they were separated when he died? They were waiting till the end of the year to file for their divorce for tax reasons.

[lv4dogs]

Does it change anyone's mind knowing that they were separated when he died? They were waiting till the end of the year to file for their divorce for tax reasons.

No becuase she still went out of her way & thought of you, she took the time to send you those items that she didn't have to send you if she didn't want to.

Nothing fancy what so ever, just a simple thank you thats all. Of course my motto is forgive & forget, if that makes a difference. Life is too short to dwell on the little things in life.

[joycenalex]

Does it change anyone's mind knowing that they were separated when he died? They were waiting till the end of the year to file for their divorce for tax reasons.

you'll still be classier for the note, no matter what type of person she is, you be the good example of how to act, let her be the bad one. ((HUGS)) it's gotta be hard on you.

[jazzcat]

Yes, yes, yes send her a thank you note. I have a sister in law that is a class A Witch and has made my life heck, especially during my mother's funeral but I still acknowledge the few and far between nice things she does for me which for the past few years has just been Christmas gifts (even though I know it was only because of my brother). I tried to play on her level and be a witch right back to her and it made me feel horrible. By sending her thank you notes for what she did it makes me feel like the better person and I can live my life knowing I've done the right thing and any problems are her problems. My life has been much happier since I've let a lot of that anger go.

(((HUGS)))

[caseysmom]

If you are harboring all these feeling and really feel that she pushed your father over the edge. Send her a letter, thank her for sending those items but then tell her whats in your heart, it may make you feel better and you will be an advocate for your father.

[Lobodeb]

Thanks everyone!

I guess I'll suck it up and send her a note. Blah!

[Cataholic]

I would send her a thank you note, because it reflects on the type of person YOU are, not her, YOU. Always better to be gracious.

[lizbud]

Thanks everyone!

I guess I'll suck it up and send her a note. Blah!

Good. You will be the better woman for it.

[Toby's my baby]

Glad you decided to send her a thank you note, I think you'll feel better, than if you wouldn't have.

[Flatcoatluver]

I voted wrong, I would sent a thank you note too, but I said no on accsident.

[moosmom]

Debby,

Definitely send a thank you note. Like everyone said, she could've have just thrown them out. That was nice of her. And cherish the things she sent you.

When my Dad passed away, I was left with everything he had (which wasn't much, believe me). I didn't get along with my stepmother either. We also tolerated each other for my Dad's sake. She died before he did so I didn't have any problems. Except for my youngest stepsister. After her mother died, she stole the rings my Dad gave to her mother. I went and retrieved them from her, promising her I'd give them to her when my father passed away, as they really had no signifigance to me. I did just that. Never heard from her or the other 2 wicked stepsisters ever again. That suits me just fine.

Be greatful your stepmother sent you the things she did. Now you don't have to be bothered with her. Sorry about your Dad's passing.