I just want to crawl in a hole, and die. . .. *vent*

[caseysmom]

Well said Kim those were really good points.

[IRescue452]

Things would be so much easier if parents learned to control their boys. In my area there are gangs of teenage boys vandalizing the town at all hours of the night. Never once are there groups of girls walking around. I just want to make a public service anouncement- parents, do you know where your boys are. Boys getting arrested doesn't even seem to send a clue to parents, whereas they are restricting their teenage girls too much. The only way you are going to get through this is to quietly agree for now. If anything you'll just rebel when you're older because they are setting you up for it.

[Toby's my baby]

They miss the sweet little girl who came running ot them when she had a boo-boo on her knee. Now that liuttle girl is a teenager and seems to always solve her own problems and seems to shy away from coming to them for anything other than money or a car ride.

Thanks again Kim (thats my moms name ) You moms have such a good way of putting things

Another thing thats hard to do when I want to talk to my parents is, I play basketball, so I'm usually not home untill about 7 pm every night. By then, we are all exhausted, my mom and dad have already eatten supper, and my mom is doing her school work (she's a teacher at the college here) so when I get home, I dont see her sometimes. I spend about 98% of my time that I'm home up in my room, with the door shut. The only time I usually am down stairs is to go to the bathroom or get something from the kitchen. I VERY RARELY go to the basement (where my mom's office is). Hopefully things will get a little better when basketball gets over, hopefully, it wont get worse. . . .

[catnapper]

Well, the logical thing is to ask her if she minds company and you both do homework together. My hubby is a middle school teacher and its not unheard of for my girls to ask hubby if they can help grade -- maybe ask her if there's anything you can help her with, like maybe verifying a few easy-to-verify sources for her students papers? You are already acknowledging that you hide out in your room... I swear the weather isn't so different in the basement! You might just find that the company is nice and you might learn moms aren't such bad creatures.

All you teens who swear your parents are so strict... if you just trusted your parents a little and opened up to us, you'd be amazed at how much more fun you'd have with your parents. Let us in on what is going on in your life. My youngest got caught sneaking out of the hosue last (I am a heavy sleeper but hear every creak on the steps ) We called her on her cell phone and said "uh, where are you???" She went to see her friend who's grandmom is dying in the hospital. He's really not taking it well and he needed someone to talk to. She asked if she had to come home, and we said no once we found out where she was. Why? Because she always keeps us up to date on whats going on in her life and her friends lives. We know this boy and think of him like family... and we trust him because he talks to us. They both respect us, and we in turn respect that they will come to us with anything we would need to know.

We parents not out to attack you and punish you for everything..... but if my daughter never told us he's going through this problem.... if we didn't know this boy well, the story might be different. But since she is always honest with us (or at least for the most part honest ) we simply told her that next time she wants to help a friend that she needs to tell us instead of just sneaking out. No screaming matches ensued (like it did with her older sister) because we KNOW whats going on with her.... unlike her sister who kept everything inside and thought we were the enemy.

With her older sister, we told her that SHE was the one who decided how good or bad her senior year of highschool would be. She could have fun and enjoy her senior year of she could be miserable -- all based on how much she opened up to us and let us know whats going on with her. Of course they have secrets. Parents realize a certain amount of privacy and secrets go on in the world of teenagers, but we don't worry about the secrets they keep when we know about a good percetnage of their lives. The more we trust you, the more freedom and priveldeges you'll get. The more we feel you are pushing us away and hiding something the more we'll pull you in and tighten the rules.

Glad I could help so far!

[Toby's my baby]

*sigh* thanks again!! Want to come live with me! ?? just kidding, but you seem like such a great mom. . .. . i hope my mom and dad are like you. . ..

[dab_20]

*sigh* sucks being our age sometimes, huh? I'm sorry your parents are giving you a tough time. I am NOT allowed to talk on instant messeging at all. My parent's put me on a limited account so I can't download anything and check every once in awhile to see if I went on MSN.

My mom and dad also tell me I won't understand why they do this to me until I have kids of my own. Some of you on here who are parents really do sound like great ones. I guess right now we've got lots of stress in our lives and when we have even more rules it seems like it makes it even more harder... but really it's prolly making it easier.

Hope you feel better.

[carole]

We as parents know that being a teenager is a hard time in life, remember we were there once ourselves and believe me my teenage years were strict in comparison to teenagers today, they have much more priviliges i think and usually parents are more tolerant than the generation before them, but having said that it is not always the case, just keep in mind if you are having it tough your parents are having it tougher,and as wise words say just wait until you have your own children,then everything that was ever said to you will all come back and you will understand competely,just hang on in there and before you know it those difficult years will have passed and you will hopefully beable to look back at them and smile and say Geez I made it, and my parents are both reasonably sane still.

[Toby's my baby]

Lol, Thanks Carole!

[carole]

Your most welcome sweetie.

[MariaM]

Lol I know how you feel...my mom and I were fighting about an hour ago.

She NEVER likes to leave the house, EVER. I'm taking Drivers Ed. and I always have to get a ride home with one of my dad's friends. We live 25 minutes away from anything and everything...church, school, friends, shopping etc..

It is SO annoying. I've asked her a few different times in the last 3 months if I could get my hair cut somewhere, and she keeps saying fine, but she will NEVER go in unless for church when my dad gets us to go. If he's not home, she won't go. So, tonight I was talking to my friend and she was wanting to get her hair cut, so her mom was going to make an appointment so we planned that we could get it done at the same time...of course my mom didn't like that idea, I don't honestly know why, I guess she doesn't want my friends mom to think she won't drive me in or something..

It's annoying. We fought, and as teenagers always do, I believe I was right. Blsjles

[BC_MoM]

Hmm.. those rules seem pretty harsh.

You know.. I've never once in my life had problems as a teenager. Probably because I don't have high demands for a social life. I don't party, I don't hang out every night.. I have a few good friends and that's about it.

My parents sometimes give me beef and tell me to get out more.. but I don't want to.. I'm fine. My dogs are my life. Friends come last.

... Okay, call me a loner now.. :\

[MariaM]

Ha...parents encourage you to get out? My mom hardly lets me leave and I haven't done ANYTHING to discourage her from trusting me...

[dab_20]

Hmm.. those rules seem pretty harsh.

You know.. I've never once in my life had problems as a teenager. Probably because I don't have high demands for a social life. I don't party, I don't hang out every night.. I have a few good friends and that's about it.

My parents sometimes give me beef and tell me to get out more.. but I don't want to.. I'm fine. My dogs are my life. Friends come last.

... Okay, call me a loner now.. :\

Like me sometimes. I'd rather go to my dad's and visit him and the animals then go out and party with my friends. Although sometimes I fight with my mom.

[Toby's my baby]

I NEVER party, and rarley go to a friends house. I live out in the country too, and my two best friends live 20 miles away and 45 miles away! My friends that don't go to my school live a little closer, but its about 5 miles at least.

[Alysser]

I hang out with my friends ALOT! Like just about everyday. My parents aren't *to* protective. Except my dad and boys.( )But my mom lets me go anywhere I want if she is home. Sometimes, I go out while she's not home. I guess you could call them care free. They can trust me enough.