I just want to crawl in a hole, and die. . .. *vent*

[buttercup132]

dress mature (no mini skirts) & covered.

She said shes a teenager ...most of them do wear that stuff , well not mini skirts but low shirts...lol

[king2005]

She said shes a teenager ...most of them do wear that stuff , well not mini skirts but low shirts...lol

I know, thats why I said it... Just because "most" teens do it, doesn't make it a mature thing to do. As most guys see them as open for business & parents also see it that way, so they feel the need to protect their daughtors even more.

10yrs ago my parents split up. We use to be the family everyone wanted to be, not anymore .. I faught my butt off to move in with dad, I won at 14yrs old after my mom broke the law & the judge was really ticked off at her.

Well I wore jeans, t-shirts, no makeup or anything all that girly. My sister stayed with mom. Mom bought her ummm sluty clothing (mini skirts, jeans with holes in the butt & crotch, mini shirts, ect. My sister liked the attention she was getting from guys, as she was never popular with any group. My sister became open for business at around 14yrs old til about 18yrs old, drugs & booze is all mixed in there aswell. (my dad was mad, but there was nothing he could do)..

My sister is turning 21 next month & she can not go back to our home town without guys litterly trying to rape her, as they know shes open when she drunk/stoned. People harrass her on the streets & call her all day long when they know shes in town...

The above doesn't happen to "all" girls, but some parents are scared it will, so if you dress down (jeans & a normal t-shirt), there is less for parents to worry about.


edit: She no longer dresses like that. Its all jeans & shirts that cover her up.

[Toby's my baby]

Carole - Thank you so much for that. I want to let YOU know, that I LOVE getting your replies on my threads where I am venting about my parents, because it does let me see the other side of things, when I can't see it, no matter how hard I try.

I think my mom is really worried, because she got pregnant the year after she graduated. I've heard stories after stories about how her life sucked so bad, and how my two older brothers had the worst lifes.

Thanks again everybody!

[Alysser]

I know dads! My dad is so annoying with boys I can't even believe it! He says if I EVER am *allowed* to get a boyfriend he has to check him out. Okay, I get that. But then he goes "Your uncle and godfather has to check him out to!" UGH! I know he is serious. My godfather would literally KILL him if I was ever hurt and whatever. I am really mad about that. My mom is okay with having boys over as long as an adults there. But my dad can't even be told a boy was in the house.

((HUGS)) Im really sorry you can't talk to Dylan that long. He sounds like a great guy and you seem to be in a real pickle. Sorry about that! I just want you to know alot of teen girls go through this to.

[moosmom]

I used to get SUPER pissed when it came to rules and regs of the house when I was your age. I couldn't date till I was 16. I couldn't wear stockings (that's what they called them BEFORE pantyhose arrived on the scene). I couldn't wear jeans to school, only dresses and skirts, my curfew was midnight on the weekends.

I'm going to tell you what MY father always told me back if I complained about any of it. It didn't make sense then. But believe me, he was right on the money.

"You may not understand NOW, why I do the things I do when it comes to you. But I can promise you, you WILL when you have children of your own."

I never met a more wise man when it came to that statement.

[catnapper]

I'm sorry, but I'd have reacted the same way. Did you see my thread in Cat Genreal about my daughter doing basically the same thing?

Chances are the phone limit was instilled because both of you were burning up the phone time and not spending as much time on your studies and with the family. Smart dad.

As for IM.... it is VERBOTEN around here to have that on the computer. If we find that on the 'puter whoever installed it lost all computer priveledges for a long. long while. IM is a BAD program that opens a back door to the computer system for huijackers and such. Besides, teens spend entirely too much tie on IMing people, and can get themselves into trouble with it. Too much power and freedom for someone who hasn't learned much about life

[moosmom]

Listen to Kim. She speaks from experience, so do I. We may sound old (nothing personal, Kim) but we know what we're talking about. Been there, done that!!

[Toby's my baby]

Thank you Donna and Kim! I know my parents just want the best for us, but it seems like it's just pushing us away. I know that deep down inside, somewhere, I love my parents very much. We (me nad my sister) help my parents when they need it, working for my dad, or helping my mom clean the house. But they always complain about us not telling them things, like what happened in school etc. We DO tell them, but everytime I try to tell my mom something, she just ignores us, she's too interested in the show she's watching, or she just doesnt seem to care. .

[catnapper]

Then why try to talk to her when she's into a show? I had this SAME EXACT discussion with my girls. They complained I wasn't listening when they were talking, and I asked them why they always chose the exact moment I am least receptive. I told them that when I'm folding laundry, walking the dog, etc, that I am COMPLETELY able to talk to them. I'd love to chat while matching socks. I might fall over if one of my girls sat next to me and started sorting with me Its a matter of watching mom and seeing what she's doing.... why choose moment where she is 100% focused on something? Why not go into the kitchen as she's starting dinner and ask her if you could help. As you are hopping onions, start talking about your day. You are responsible for choosing the times you try to talk to your parents. Imagine your dad walking in on your 20 minute phone time and wanting to talk. You'd probably turn a deaf ear to him just as he turns a deaf ear to you while he's winding down watching the tv show he's waited all week to see. Same thing.

The only one pushing away is YOU. Believe me, your parents are not trying to push you away - in fact they are trying to find a way to pull you back in. They miss the sweet little girl who came running ot them when she had a boo-boo on her knee. Now that liuttle girl is a teenager and seems to always solve her own problems and seems to shy away from coming to them for anything other than money or a car ride.