Should I do something??

[BC_MoM]

You know,...

Here's my two cents after being severely bullied for 3 years, and eventually being ordered by cops to move to a new school division for fear something bad would happen.

Alyssa, you're right. You CAN'T ignore them. So many people told me that when the bullying start. "Ignore them and they'll realize they're not aggravating you". NO ONE understood that you can't ignore them. They're like a parrot glued to your shoulder. Even some kids who were bullied said to ignore them, when them themselves couldn't ignore them. Some advice.

Best thing is to always be with a friend if you can. That way you're not alone, and easier to target. I don't know about you, but my friends were afraid of the bully, too, so they never stuck up for me.

I never tried this.. but when she's says something, laugh at her.. laugh really loud. Or, partionize her.

The girl: "You're a loser."
You: "You know, you're right. You know me really well. You're right. I AM a loser. I just never saw it until now!!!"

But if this gets really serious, Alyssa, and nothing is working.. throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one*

I'm not kidding. If you throw a good one at her and hit her, she'll be afraid of you for a while.

I never tried that either, though, but what I've heard from my aunt's and uncle's who were bullied because of their Irish accents when they came here, it worked for them. And the bullies never bugged them again.

I never tried a lot of stuff because the bullies destroyed my self-esteem, and self-confidence. And I still don't have it back today; 4 years later.

Just don't let it get as far as it got for me, Alyssa... I'd hate to see anyone in the same state as me. <33

[CagneyDog]

But if this gets really serious, Alyssa, and nothing is working.. throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one*

I'm sorry but that would be the WORST thing to ever do. Maybe she would be scared off but most likely she'll get someone else involved then. Her friends will probably all gang up on you. She coud also charge you....

[BC_MoM]

I'm sorry but that would be the WORST thing to ever do. Maybe she would be scared off but most likely she'll get someone else involved then. Her friends will probably all gang up on you. She coud also charge you....

Probably not the worst. Sorry. But that's coming from a victim's point of view.

[CagneyDog]

Probably not the worst. Sorry. But that's coming from a victim's point of view.

I realize that. I've also been a victim, and I remain to be a victim of bullying. I don't see how physically injuring someone will help anything.

[Miss Z]

I see BC Mom's point. I've not suffered from bad bullying, most teasing is just trying to annoy me and i shake it off and just tell them that they're idiots, and they usually just laugh, so it's not really on bad terms i suppose. But yes, if i was a victim of bad bullying, i definitely would hit them, after many threats of course. I wouldn't mess around ignoring the bully or telling tales to teachers, i'm a lancashire lass and i deal with things myself and don't beat around the bush. I'm surprised that the girl who's been annoying Alyssa actually stopped when she ignored her, i would have thought that she would try to annoy her more.

I also liked your response to 'you're a loser' BC MoM. Did that actually happen? Gawd, someone calling you a loser is so childish and petty, but that response is really mature and witty. I like it!

[BC_MoM]

Well, of course. Being called a loser was the first stage of bullying for me in my experience.

But it got worse. Much worse. If you want to know more, you can PM me. I'd rather not talk about it publicly.

CagneyDog, I still have to disagree that hitting would be the worst thing. I am guessing you never experienced as harsh bullying as I did, and never will. If you did, I'm sorry for you. But I can't believe a victim would disagree about throwing a punch at a bully. Setting aside that the bully may fight back if you don't hit hard enough.

[Vette]

I don't see how physically injuring someone will help anything.

Ditto....

never hurt anyone because of something as stupid as this. it could really 'land slide' on you in more ways then one. may make her hound your butt even more and get her 'buddies' in on it.

[Alysser]

Jess, I would never punch her. Don't get mad when I say this but believe me.
SHE IS A HUGE WIMP! I MEAN HUGE! She couldn't even talk to someone at the counter of a store without being nervous. Even with my parents she was shy and she knew them well. If I even threaten her(which I would never do) I would be in HUGE trouble. Some people even said someone got expelled at my school for threatening someone. If she ever touched me I probably would punch her back in self defense though. Thanks for caring so much, Jess. I am so sorry you had to go through that.

[CagneyDog]

CagneyDog, I still have to disagree that hitting would be the worst thing. I am guessing you never experienced as harsh bullying as I did, and never will. If you did, I'm sorry for you. But I can't believe a victim would disagree about throwing a punch at a bully. Setting aside that the bully may fight back if you don't hit hard enough.

Well that's a interesting assumption but I have experienced some very harsh bullying. I wasn't going to say it but I have punched people before, and I got suspended and things got a lot worse. It's coming from personal experience.

[beeniesmom]

throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one* <33

I was bullied for months in the 7th grade.
I have to say that I did ignore the person for months but it got worse until one day... I did throw a good punch at her..... she never bothered me again.

I know it's not good advice but it worked for me.

[JenBKR]

Do you have an older sibling or friend that could help at all? My sister was terrorized by a girl down the street from us, she'd bully her at the bus stop, on the bus, and at school. She was too embarrased to tell me at first, but she finally did tell me. I'm about 2 1/2 years older than her, so I was in 10th or 11th grade at the time. I told a friend of mine to meet me at the bus stop one morning. When we got there, we talked to 'Brandy' (the girl bullying my sis). I pretty much told her that if she ever so much as looked at my sis again it would be the last thing she'd ever do (and I'm not a strong person, about 5'9 135 lbs., so not like I'm real big and scary either). She never bothered her again, in fact, she started smiling at her and being SUPER sweet to me.

[Alysser]

My parents don't want to get involved. My sister is to evil to help. But maybe, my other friend could help. I'll just have to see.

[I_luv_rusty]

My parents don't want to get involved. My sister is to evil to help. But maybe, my other friend could help. I'll just have to see.

My Mom doesn't want me so much as talking to her anywhere! She says to leave her alone, but i'm not going to she talks to me, I talk to her! My mom also says don't get into a cat fight, and my brother is here showing me all this punches, and kicks, and telling me to pull her hair, etc. if she is a bitch.

[JenBKR]

Has it gotten physical at all (sorry if I missed that). I personally don't think that any adults should get involved unless she gets physical or it gets really bad, chances are that would only make things worse. This is such a hard situation because so many things you could do would only give her fuel.

[Alysser]

Has it gotten physical at all (sorry if I missed that). I personally don't think that any adults should get involved unless she gets physical or it gets really bad, chances are that would only make things worse. This is such a hard situation because so many things you could do would only give her fuel.

No, she hasn't gotten physical. But very bad. She threatened to KILL someone.