Did I say anything wrong?

[Glacier]

Whew, I emailed her saying I am sorry if I upset her. And she emailed me back telling me to knock it off! She said she hasn't had time to think about it since lunch and that she actually thinks its funny how people have this misconception of him. Apparently she's come across this idea in the past, when they first got together.

LOL, You get used to it! People think all sorts of things about Stuart because he has the same rough around the edges look your friend's hubby has. Stuart is also very loud, outspoken, brutally honest and doesn't take any crap from anybody. He scares the beejeezus out of some people. One of my co-workers told me once that before she got to know him, she would have crossed the stree to avoid him! I get a different side of him that no one else sees. I'm sure your friend does too. I'm glad she's secure enough in her hubby to see the humor in the rumors!

[carole]

Well Kim you were faced with quite a dilemma and you chose to tell your friend about it, apparently it has been the right decision, so be comfortable in knowing that, it does not always turn out that way, and I guess I would probably not have said anything, although i certainly would have wanted to, you can only do what you think is right, I once was faced with a very awkward situation, my then best friends husband flirted with me behind my friends back, and on the phone, it used to upset me terribly, he would tell me how he thought i was nice looking and all that kinda of stuff, i wanted to tell her desperately but i never did, i think it was the right decision in this particular case, now years on she divorced the creep and knows what he is really like, but still i would not tell her even to this day, some things are just best left unsaid.,in my case anyhow.

[catnapper]

OMG! I just got back from a town hall meeting. I told my friend to be there (actually tonight's town hall meeting is exactly how the conversation started) I told her that some people were complaining about the way she parks along the street and were going to bring it up tonight. I thought she should be there to defend herself.

Anyhow, Mr. Nosey stood up, went up to the microphone and complained about her car being parked where she always parks it. The committee people basically blew him off and moved on to another topic, so Mrs. Nosey got up to the microphone and said, "I want to go back to the discussion of that red car. This has been going on for years now and I haven't said anything because I was afraid to call the police, since I know there have been domestics calls to the police." then she went on to say, "I don't want him to find out I called and try to seek out revenge on me. If he can do that to his wife, whats going to stop him going after me?" (only not in so many words) Oh-my-gawd!

Hubby and I sat there with our jaws in our laps. We were absolutely STUNNED she said that in such a public forum! Shortly after that little speach, we hightailed it out of there to give her heads up that now they'll be calling the police on her every time they see her car parked in what they deem "the wrong place"... or for any other matter they seem fit. Of course she's not home, so now I'm stuck.... do I tell her this or leave it go at "you're going to get ticketed tomorrow if you don't move the car"

[Suki Wingy]

I would have done the same thing.

[Craftlady]

Anyhow, Mr. Nosey stood up, went up to the microphone and complained about her car being parked where she always parks it. The committee people basically blew him off and moved on to another topic, so Mrs. Nosey got up to the microphone and said, "I want to go back to the discussion of that red car. This has been going on for years now and I haven't said anything because I was afraid to call the police, since I know there have been domestics calls to the police." then she went on to say, "I don't want him to find out I called and try to seek out revenge on me. If he can do that to his wife, whats going to stop him going after me?" (only not in so many words) Oh-my-gawd!

I would tell your friend what happend and then I would advise her to contact a lawyer. I'd sue Mrs Mosey so fast for slander of character her head would spin. The city officals who where present, I would get them to sign depositions as to what she said in public.

[catnapper]

The city officals who where present, I would get them to sign depositions as to what she said in public.

No need for a signed deposition -- it was all on TAPE!!!

I am still floored. Its one thing for Mrs. Nosey to complain to me in private, another in a huge public forum. The cop that was there was REAL fast to say "No names PLEASE!" He didn't even like that she listed the address as she told her tale of nieghborly woe.

[Laura's Babies]

MY! What a friendly neighborhood you live in! WHO will be their next target?

[AbbyMom]

Craftlady's right! Get a lawyer to at least write an official letter specifying they must cease and desist the slander now. Most lawyers would take this on for a modest fee. I think it'd be worth it just to imagine their faces when they read it.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

What horrid, small minded, pathetic busybodies your neighbours are! You are the sort of friend I'd want in my corner