Need Good Luck Wishes!

**Craftlady** · 01-20-2006, 10:48 PM

Originally Posted by catnapper

I hate to admit it, but I can't find clothes in the stores for him anymore.

Casual Male

Think about it: If you had two equal candidates, with equal experience. Which would you choose? The 350+ man or the 190 pound man? All things equal except weight.... answer honestly. You'd choose the guy who your wealthier (snobby) parents would most approve of.

My answer honestly, I wouldnt want my husband working there. That is not a school system I would want to be associated.
My hubby big/tall man fortunately we havent had trouble being hired in any school system. If a potental school system tried to say/imply/or we found out some skinny dude got it, you'd bet that school system would be sorry.

**K9karen** · 01-21-2006, 01:36 AM

Too bad we can't judge a person immediately from who they are "inside". Although my John has 40+ years experience in the IT world, and will take any salary at this present time, we both know his age and weathered looks are a negative. They want young and hip and slim. Shame for what society's missing out on. Thank God that in every job I've had, staff was hired by merit and experience and not by looks.
I know so many people who've had gastric bypass surgery. All were paid by insurance for health related purposes. One girl needed extra plastic surgery (not covered) to remove excess skin etc. You still have to be careful afterwards since your "pea" sized stomach stretches after a while as you increase your food and you can gain weight back. And there are food they can never eat again, it just upsets their digestive tracts. it takes patience and self control. Personally, if I needed it for any reason, I'd do it. Umpty-ump years ago I had liposuction as I was built like a pear, couldn't find comfortable clothes, dieted, excercised etc. I had it done 3x (2nd and 3rd time almost free-as I was nominated to be a spokesperson for the surgeon on the benefits). Best thing I ever did. Upped my self esteem like nobody's business. Oops, I guess my secret is out.
I feel for your situation. I hope things get better. Fingers crossed that things work out. Teachers in my county are paid a fortune, which includes medical benefits for their families. Our school tax bill is enormous.

**catnapper** · 01-21-2006, 05:52 AM

Originally Posted by K9karen

Teachers in my county are paid a fortune, which includes medical benefits for their families. Our school tax bill is enormous.

I know! If he moved to your district, its be almost $30,000 jump! Believe me, we've thought about it!

As you might remember, I'm orginally from your area (went ot college down the street) and moved up here to marry him. I have tried time and time again to move us down there, but in the past two years housing costs have skyrocketed to beyond our means. oh well.

As for your experience.... sorry they are missing out on your husband. They missed out on my dad too. He's incredibly intelligent but because he's over 50 and has a physical handicap, they pass him up every time. After nearly 10 years of being unemployed from his "real job" he's been working asa security gaurd and now as a greeter at Walmart. All that talent and insight wasted because he doesn't fit their concept of a marketing & finance manager.