Bad news (Aidan)

[finn's mom]

I'm so sorry to hear this news...but, with such a strong family surrounding him, his life will be full and blessed and rich, no matter what he can see with his eyes.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear this about our darling Aidan. Can only enforce what all his other "Aunties" have said - it is not your fault. As he grows up if his eyes don't function properly his other senses will compensate. With you and his Dad right behind him he will learn to cope and adjust to everything. Try to be positive (hard at the moment I know) but he will be just fine and so will you.

In the meantime we're sending you tons of love and kisses to get you through this xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

Im so sorry that you guys are getting this news.

I have to echo what everyone else is saying. Anything is possible. I really feel deep down that it is to early to expect the worst outcome. Nothing is your fault. The best thing in the world that can happen to anyone is to be born to a loving family. Aidan is truly blessed already to know the love of his mother and father and that is all he really needs to grow up happy.

You guys will be in my prayers. God can do anything.

[prechrswife]

Jaime, please don't blame yourself. Sometimes these things just happen. You have a beautiful, precious little boy who is a gift from God. As others have said, new medical advances are being made on a daily basis. I will keep you, Aidan, and your husband in my prayers. Feel free to vent anytime. (((((Hugs)))))

[JenBKR]

(((hugs))) sweetie, I am so sorry. Jen said it best, nothing is 100%. No matter what, he is still such a lucky baby to be in a home filled with so much love.

[ramanth]

*HUGS* Please don't blame yourself.

[lv4dogs]

hugs sweetie. Jen hit the nail on the head when she said nothing is 100%. He can still grow up surrounded by loved ones & still participate in many activities.

Even if he is legally blind in only one eye he may still be able to drive. My Aunt is & also considered legally blind in one eye, she has a license & drives just fine.

[mina'smomma]

Oh Jaime. Don't blame yourself hun. You did everything you could to bring Aiden safely and healthy into this world. Somethings are out of your control. Birth defects can happen no matter how good the mom takes care of herself. Even a mom who follows all the rules and is in perfect health can have a baby with birth defects. Just keep on loving that adorable little guy like you and Josh can and he'll grow up just as happy as can be. Who knows maybe by the time he gets old enough to have surgery there will be something to give him sight.


Hugs

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Perhaps you can focus on the things that he can do rather than the things he might not be able to do.

I think this is the most important statement so far! There are many many many blind people in the world that live totally productive happy lives. For some reason it was decided that your family would be dealt this challenge and now it is up to you to overcome it - and I know you will!

Of course, this is all easy for me to say as an outsider and the fact that it's not happening to my baby. I know you will have some rough times as you deal with this, but I believe you will all overcome and will be better people for it.

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Please Jaime, do not blame this on yourself.... . Aidan is there now, and I am sure that with all the love and care he will get he will grow into a beautiful and great man8 Hugs to you and your hubby!!

[Cataholic]

Aidan is a precious gift, no matter what physical challenges he may have. He has you to guide him and love him. He is blessed and so are you.
Hugs.

I think this sentiment bears repeating. Keep in mind, we are ALL challenged in some way. Maybe, Aiden's are known right away, where many of us struggle to recognize what are challenges are.

Take it from someone that knows somewhat the meaning of "physically challenged"...life will be what the three of you make it. There is no end to your spirit and courage.

Grieve for a while, but, please adapt, develop a plan, if necessary, so that Aiden never knows for a heartbeat any difference.

love,
Johanna

[Jadapit]

I really cant say anymore than all the others have said. Please know its not your fault. (((Hugs)))

[Anita Cholaine]

I'm sorry... First of all, don't blame yourself, it wsn't your fault...

I don't have anything to said that hasn't been said before. I'm sure that, with the love and support of his wonderful mum and dad, Aidan's life will be happy and full of joy... He's already blessed of having such a loving family...

(((((hugs)))))

[Samantha Puppy]

Thanks for the kind words, everyone. I appreciate you all hearing me out and saying such nice, supportive things. I can finally, finally think about what Aidan may be up against without automatically bursting into tears, so we're taking baby steps but progress is progress. I'll keep you all posted as we find out more, but as the doctor said - it's basically a waiting game until Aidan can tell us what he can and can't see.

And Kay - I'm afraid I haven't been able to put either the onesie or the bib on Aidan yet. You see, he was so small when he was born he couldn't even fit into preemie clothing (3-5 lbs.). The onesie you got him is for 18 mos. so it would absolutely swim on him. I have a feeling he'll be closer to 2 years old before he'll be able to wear it and fill it out. The bib is also big for him - but he should be able to use it in about 3-6 months. When he is able to fit into them, I will take pictures - I promise!