Does it bother you when someone doesn't like you?

[lv4dogs]

It bothers me when they won't talk or explain to me WHY they don't like me or what I did to cause them dislike, if that makes any sense. For example, if I do or say something that offends them or makes them upset to the sense that they don't like me or, online, block me, its hard for me because I don't know what I DID to know how to fix the problem or what to avoid in the future so I don't upset others as well.

I feel the same way, although it does bother me for that very reason (I would like to fix me so I don't upset others) it still doesn't bother me too much.

[ramanth]

It would of bothered me but it doesn't anymore. If a stranger, acquaintence, or co-worker doesn't like me, no big deal.

However, if a family member or one of my close friends suddenly didn't like me anymore, I'd be bothered.

[gemini9961]

It doesn't bother me really. I have far better things to concern myself with than who doesn't like me.

[luvofallhorses]

It depends on the person. If it's someone I want to get to know and be friends with, then yes it does!

[Suki Wingy]

Only if they apear not to like me for no apparent reason. There is a girl at school who is ok friends with one of my good friends and this girl has acted like I disgust her for 2 years now. I seriously don't know what I did. I don't let it get to me but I also don't like to be around her while she's giving me dirty looks.

[moosmom]

JenBKR,

I used to get upset when someone didn't like me. But it does change as you get older. At 53, I'm not out to win any popularity contests, or change my personality simply because I offend someone. The people I call my friends, like the people on this web site and the friends I've had for years (we're talking 40-50 years) know me and like me for myself. Those who don't...POO ON 'EM!!!

[CountryWolf07]

No, not really... they can just kiss my, you know what! I don't want to say it on here because of the younger kids on board. It's not my problem, it's theirs.

[cali]

nope dont bother me, I grew up with my teachers using me as a threat(no one would want me in their group so the teacher would tell the class that if no one invited me into their group, he was going to pick one at random) after years of people worrying that I might be "stuck" with them, and having peoplesit outside your class watching you and calling you "homely" well the odd person not likeing you does not seem so bad, when I was in high school though people tried to get to know me, and when they realized that I am a great person to hang out with, the stigma started to go away, and by grade 12 I was part of 3 groups. now in the work world I am very well liked, I have had the 2 locations I work at argue over who should get to have me on a particular day lol there is only one person who does not seem to like me much, what do I care? he will galr at me sometimes..well whoopdeedo a glar aint gonna kill me lol

[finn's mom]

It used to bother me so much. I'd put more into someone who didn't like me than I would people who did. I pushed a lot of people away doing that, and, have learned to just accept it. I think one thing that has made me open my eyes to the idea that it's just chemistry, some people just aren't going to click with you...is when I started to realize I just simply didn't like some of the coolest people around. And, I would start to really pay attention to what it was that I didn't like, and, it would hardly ever be something I could really pinpoint. I knew then it was really all about chemistry, and, there's nothing that can really be done about that. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. I still sometimes am bothered by it, but, for the most part, I don't allow myself to make time for that anymore.

[Lady's Human]

It doesn't bother me at all. I've been a stubborn bull headed person for too long to change now.

Besides, in my part time job, (a sergeant in the Army) it's frequently a Good thing when someone doesn't like me!

[Alysser]

I don't care if it's someone I don't like. But if it's someone I like/respect/and am closed to it bothers me alot! Especially, if I did nothing wrong and if they won't tell me why.

A friend of mine started acting like a B**** in lunch one day and said "I hope you die!" to me and my other friends. Then, she IMs me blaming my new friend(I_luv_rusty) for nothing. Not to mention, she's just a plain loser. She has only TWO friends. She wears clothes that are ugly and not appropriate. It's just plain gross. Frankly, I don't care. I never really liked her that much. She came to my house once and Sassy greeted her! SHE HIT HER! My mom almost threw her out of the house. She hates dogs. Even her own and she is like "Put her in her cage!". I was really pissed off. So now, I hate her for even thinking this stuff. I am not going to put up with that. IF she hates me, great. I can care less. Also, she talks about me and calls me names online. I just laugh.

[ParNone]

Nope, I only surround myself with people who think I'm a really awesome person. Does wonders for the self esteem. I've never felt the need to be friends with everybody. A hand full of really close friends is much more fullfilling to me then a slew of casual friends. I might ponder for a fleeting moment why somebody didn't like me, but since I wouldn't seek out being friends with them, it would be out of my head faster then it came in.

Now if somebody goes out of their way to be rude to me that's different. That would bother me. You don't like me, fine, but I don't see any need to be rude to anybody. I might not choose to do social activities with somebody, who I feel I don't have anything in common with, but I'd never be anything but polite to them.

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[pnance]

It doesn't really bother me anymore if someone doesn't like me, but that's only been in the past few years. Before that I thought I'd done something wrong if they didn't. I think part of it's age and part of it's the knowledge that not all personalities get along. That doesn't mean their a bad person or I am, it just means our personalities don't work together. I work with someone now who I don't like nor does she like me. We work together so we'll discuss work related issues, but I wouldn't sit down and discuss how our weekend was, etc.

[dogzr#1]

Don't bother me a bit. If it was one of my close friends then yea, it would bother me. This girl doesn't like me now because I didn't vote for here in the student council elections. I voted for one of my 6th grade friends. she hadn't really liked me before that and i had hardly even talked to her. It got really annoying. I think she is just mean because yesterday my friend Judith dropped her binder and all her papers fell out, so she was calling Judith a loser. She was saying "HaHa loser, you dropped your papers!" That is one of my pet peeves, people who are rude and mean. I think they are immature when they do something like that. They should know better when they are 12 or 13 years old.

[lizbud]

It does not bother me at all in adult life. A child somehow doesn't know
that it takes all kinds of people to make a world. As the old saying goes,
"older and wiser" now.