Working for family (long but very important to me) UPDATED

[Husky_mom]

i second what corinna just said, she took my thought. its a great idea tell you dad about it i also thinks it for the best interest of both.

i also work with my family

[Husky_mom]

i just saw your post, i know it hard to find reliable persons but who better to run a bussiness other than you own family, if you did employ other it would be catastrofic since it not THEIR bussiness so they dont care.

[Corinna]

I find it hard to be;eive you can't find a young person hungery for a job and a career may be with the possiblity of owning the shop in a couple years.

[JenBKR]

(((hugs))) oh Sue, I am so sorry. What a difficult situation you are in, and I know you must feel that no matter what you decide it will be the wrong decision. I don't know that I have any advice, just to have faith in yourself and stay strong. Pretty crappy that your brother would do that, IMO. Let me know if there is anything I can do. You can PM me anytime.

[Cataholic]

Sue,
If I were you, I would focus on the things I CAN control, and let go of the ones that I cannot. That is easier said than done, I know. However, once you do let go of the things out of your control, you will stop alot of the roller coaster of emotions. Think that through- you cannot control your brother's quittting, opening a new shop, your father's actions of either not staying with the business, etc.

Next, I would remember that you are ONLY responsible for your own actions. Not you brother's, not your father's. Just yours. As long as you do things that put you and your family first, what other people 'feel' is their business, their responsibility.

Then, I would make sure that you are as marketable, and that you have a resume 'up to date', and an idea of what is going on in the marketplace.

Last, here is some reality- family business, or not, you are in the same position most of us are (while we might not 'fess up to it)- replacable as an employee, at the employer's beck and call, and with the risk of having the company fold at a moment's notice. You have some benefits that I bet many of us do not- dogs/pets at work, a month's severance, and the ability to know what is going on with the place. Not meant to diminish your feelings...but, instead, make you realize you are not alone in your position.

Good luck.

[lv4dogs]

updated this in the first post

[JenBKR]

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry this is happening again. Life's rough patches never seem fair, but have faith that everything will work out in the end. Being miserable at work is hardly worth it, but if it's between that and your critters...whew, not an easy decision. I wish I had some wonderful, inspirational advice to give (like you always give me ) but I really don't except to say that anytime you need to talk PM me. If there is anything I can do please let me know! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.