My Mom died with cancer in 1999. What I say to you is do all you can to help or just BE there. The conversations I had with Mama after she got cancer were some of the best. The time we spent together was some of the best times we had. Mama told me often she had, had a good life and was ready to go. I talked to her about it and even told her we had made all her arrangements and where we were going to bury her. That pleased her and she was thrilled that we were going to bury her out where my brother was buried. We let her die at home and that was the most healing thing for us.

BUT..... NOTHING in life prepared you for the loss of a parent. It hurts to the core of your being.