How many children do want/have?

[lizbud]

I would have liked to have had a few kids of my own. Unfortunately neither of my husbands thought I deserved to have kids. I have 2 step kids from my 2nd husband, he figures that I should be happy with that - yes, but NOT. They're ok kids, but they are not mine. He doesn't get that. Now that I approach 40 years of age in the next month it is too late, something I regret and will regret for the rest of my life. I resent both husbands, the first one I actually hate, the second - well we are still togther so I'm trying to get over it.

I am so sorry. Didn't you two talk about things like children before you
married?

My husband & I both thought two children would be great & we had a boy
then a girl. What more is there?

[dukedogsmom]

None and none. I feel badly for a friend of mine at work. She wanted kids so bad. Her husband has two, ages 16 and 18, from a previous marriage. She had lots of problems and had to have a hysterectomy. He won't consider adoption because they don't know what they would get. But, his own kids have caused problems. I think that's pretty selfish. I also think that this is a topic that should be discussed throoughly before any serious relationship.

[chocolatepuppy]

I have no children and want no children. I always thought I would have children, was married at 18 , but no babies ever came. By the time we were in our early thirties we gave up, and decided to let our lives go to the dogs! ( and now cats too!) Back then it used to bother me that we couldn't have children but now I could care less.
I do think the worst thing about children would be the worry. I applaude all of you who do have children as I could never bear the worrying. I know how I worry about my furkids and they don't have to go to school, or drive or move away.

[buckner]

I've always wanted a large family. I think that comes from too many episodes of The Brady Bunch, but I love the thought of having several children (5-7) and having a warm, cozy house to come home too. There'd always be something happening and I like that idea. However, it'd depend on my husband and I's financial situation. I don't want to have 5-7 children and them almost have nothing because I don't have the money. I want at LEAST 2 kids, but I'd love a LARGE amount of children because I love children and have always had a burning desire to have many. And, if my husband didn't want that many, I would compromise to that.

I'd be devestated if I couldn't have children because I don't think I'm the type of person to adopt a child.

[Suki Wingy]

I'd be devestated if I couldn't have children because I don't think I'm the type of person to adopt a child.

I don't understand. I think that if for some reason I wanted kids and I couldn't I'd adopt before I went to one of those clinics. Why try so hard for your own when there are other children who need supportive homes?

[popcornbird]

I don't understand. I think that if for some reason I wanted kids and I couldn't I'd adopt before I went to one of those clinics. Why try so hard for your own when there are other children who need supportive homes?

Everyone has their own choice. I would love to adopt a needy child someday...it is such a rewarding thing to do, BUT...I'd like to have my own child first. Then again, it depends on God's will. If I couldn't have children, I would adopt, but I somehow believe the feeling of a child developing in your own womb is just different. Everyone has their own choice when it comes to kids...no reason to 'not understand'.

[NoahsMommy]

I've always thought that if I had kids, I'd adopt. From a very early age, I knew that there were kids without mommies and daddies and that touched me. Sure, it'd be nice to have a child that shared my DNA...but I personally (MY OWN OPINON, NOT JUDGEMENT) feel that its selfish (OF ME, NOT OTHERS) to have more kids when the world is full of kids that need loving, supportive parents. I know I could make a parentless child's life better if I were there.

I also have health issues that I'd NEVER willingly inflict on a child. That is one things I'm judgemental on. IF YOU HAVE AN ILLNESS THAT IS GENETIC, PLEASE BE UNSELFISH AND ADOPT IF YOU NEED TO BE A MOTHER/FATHER!! That is one of my very large pet peeves. KNOWINGLY subjecting an innocent child to the ravages of disease is very cruel. (please note, I said knowingly...not UNKNOWINGLY)

Anyway....off my soapbox now.

I'd like 1 or 2...adopted only. I think it'd be an honor to be a parent of a child in need. They've already begun life unfairly, they deserve someone that values and loves them.

[trayi52]

I have three, One boy 33, and two girls, 30 and 19. I also have four grandchildren and one grandchild on the way.

Willie

[CathyBogart]

Zero zero! I don't like 'em, I don't want 'em, and I feel SO lucky to have found a man who is willing to not have them with me.

[animal_rescue]

Well I grew up in a semi-large family, 7 kids. 2 from my mom's first marriage, 3 from my mom's second marriage, and 2 adopted. I'm a twin and from the second marriage, I seriously don't know what I would do if I were an only child, it would be so boring!! Anyways I would like a big family as well, umm I definatly want to have twins or triplets but in all I would like 6-8 kids. I'm constantly being told that I would make a great mom. forgot to mention that 2 of my kids will probably adopted, I would love to get a little girl from China and a boy from Russia, but who knows, I'm only 15!

[Cataholic]

One little boy, Jonah. He is everything I never knew he would or could ever be to me. Having Jonah made my life complete, and I didn't even know it wasn't complete!!! I do seriously wonder how I was happy before him. He is the absolute coolest thing in the world. And, he is a monkey child.

Here he is enjoying his first pile of leaves....

[prechrswife]

We have one on the way (through adoption), and would like 3 or 4.

[buttercup132]

if i count up all the dogs and all the bunnies and other animals i think it will total to something arouns 50 "kids" when im older lol
no but for actual human kids im adopting all mine i want a cute little asian girl , never having one of my own WAY too painful i couldnt go through morning sickness and the birthgiving and complications ect i think ill let people do thay for me and then take the kids

[GoldenRetrLuver]

None. I've never had the desire to have any (skin) children, and I don't expect that to change. I don't really like children, no offense to those of you who have kids or want kids, I just do not have the patience/tolerance level for them.

[K9karen]

I like kids but never wanted to go the pregnancy route. Turns out, (be careful what you wish for), I probably couldn't have them anyway. I raised my niece, who lived with us, for many years, so I had the experience (ok, I did love it). I think I'm great with them but admit I don't mind giving them back to their own parents. I guess my folks were a tad disappointed, but it wasn't meant to be.