Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic
And the communication issue? Kblaix somewhat 'proved' my statement. Today, years later, I presume (I don't know how old you are, Kblaix!) you still struggle with communication issues/intimacy issues (hugging, etc). So, my original statement rings true. People without communication skills as a young person do not grow up to be communicable people. Of course, all generalities have exceptions. It wouldn't be one I would count on for MY life partner.
You're right- I do still have communication problems, major ones. I suffer from social anxiety disorter and panic attacks. But I still make a fine wife. I'm 23, so I haven't been away from my parents too long. I have an amazing relationship with Justin, we have a better relationship than most couples I know. My social disorter doesn't greatly interfere with our relationship. I suppose it does interfere some, but we work on it together, that's what a marriage is about. I don't think it makes a person a bad spouse as long as they communicate with their husband/wife. It was something I had to learn to do. I don't feel it's a big deal if I don't want to hug every person I meet. I am a hundred times better with communication now than I was 5 years ago. In another 5 years I'm sure I'll be even better.

I re-read you're original post and I guess I do somewhat agree with it, but not fully. I somewhat agree with- "People that don't talk about/work through their issues now (or close to when they are experiencing them) usually don't mature into people that communicate well as adults." I agree it is important to work on these problems as soon as you can, you can't grow until you do.
But I don't agree with the statement- "If Matt can't/isn't into his feelings now, chances are, he won't be any better ten years from now. That isn't the type of person you want as your life partner." Every person is different. I didn't start to do better until I had moved out of parents house. I also had to forgive my parents before I could ever move on. I have Justin and a very good friend who have helped me through this.