Kim, as unbelievable as this sounds, when I went a few years ago for laser hair removal on my face, the tech told me that "shaving" the hair is actually the best thing to do. Something about hair follicles. She said that it does not make the hair grow back coarser or darker. I was so shocked, but as I said it was a few years ago so I don't remember exactly why she said it was ok. Have you tried Jolen to dye it? It may depend on how dark you are. It was messy and made my hair a reddish color. Now I have my brows and any other facial hair waxed at the salon. I could never do it myself either.