Every cat colony is different, but your household sounds the way it was at my home when my cats Lily and Bunny were the main cats.

Bunny (or Panther) was a large and gentle tom who ruled so gently it never seemed there was a problem (Schnockerbear, Nuisance,& Lionel were his co-males). If a male got proddy Bunny would "hug" him to his chest until he ran out of air and that ended the challenge.

Lily, Holly, Marmalade, Callie, Dee, and Dearie were the females of the house hold and the only sign that Lil ruled was that she was the first to acknowledge a newcomer and deferred to at treat time. At all other times the queens were polite with each other or never quite made eye-contact and so did not have to acknowledge that the others existed. (Except for Callie and Dee who were sisters and insperable.) Everyone groomed each other though there was a subtle order to it.

The years we had together were the happiest in my life. Bunny and Lily made taking care of strays so easy... I love my present family of fur, but that grouping was a very happy time and combination.