I'm so sorry that's going on, I kinda know how you feel. My sister is doing the same thing with her 2 daughters(their only 2 and 3!!). I feel bad because she just doesn't care about anything with them, she didn't even go to the zoo with them for the first time, and when Emmy was sick she couldn't give her, her medicine because she had school! My God sometimes I just want to kick the crap out of her for that!! But Selina lives with us and Emmy lives with my Aunt Ruthy down the street. One of the sad things is Emmy calls my Aunt Ruthy mom and Selina calls my mom, mom. Kelly doesn't even care...