As a dear friend of mine did, just change how you think of that person. Think of her as a weird, wacko Aunt, and not as a parent. Two friends of mine, one who decided this in high school, one afterwards, said that made their lives much easier. Expect nothing from her, and she cannot disappoint you. Be glad you've got a good Dad - one decent parent is more than some kids ever have. Give him a hug (if it's not as muggy where you are) and tell him you love him. Tell Jake that, too.

Any older women (as in older than you) around in the neighborhood, extended family, church or work that you that you could look to as a mentor?

Someone who can perhaps see beyond the end of her own nose?

Good luck, kiddo. We're here when you need us.