Thanks again guys....

As for hubby, I suppose I should explain that his fear is making her feel that he also abandoned her. He thinks if he takes my side, then in her mind he has abandoned her. He's desperately afraid to take sides. If he sides with her, he knows its wrong because its not helping her at all, and he knows he'll catch the devil with me. If he sides with me he's going to appear like he's taking my side and not considering her feelings at all. He's basically paralized and frozen in spot.

He tried talking to her again tonight... I sure do feel better realizing its not just ME!