I agree to the last two posts, I didn't want to seem like I was putting words in liz's mouth either. but, that's how I read her post, too, i just couldn't think of the right way to say it. and, as for her saying your husband is emotionally distant, it's just based on what you've told us as far as he won't do anything to help the situation. i hope you're able to talk to him so that YOU can have the support YOU need.