All I know, Donna, is that you're no wilting violet and you tell people like it is and you're not shy about telling people what you think, so why not tell this guy you don't like his directness and you'll be glad to help with the kitties, but DO NOT call me at work and I don't care to hear about the jacuzzi in your luxurious hotel room and just leave me alone! Sounds like "the relationship" is still pretty new and you haven't let him into your life too much so I don't think there's too much to be worried about, but do stay on your toes.

The guy may just be lonely and want someone in his life and not realize he's being overly pushy so you need to let him know.