Thanks PCB, I don't even know why I posted this today, there was no particular reason, I guess it has just bothered me for so many years, I needed an outlet and PT is always good for that.

My parents love all the grandchildren, and I have to say treat them equally, they just don't interact with them as I see other grandparents,my mother always would say I'll have to have Melissa over, but it never happened, I hated to even ask them to look after her , and that was only on rare occasions, there was never anything for a young child to do there, she always said she should get some toys for her to play with, but she just did not do it, when she was little she used to ask to stay there, as all her friends were doing that, I think she did stay one night, but now she is nearly 13 and she just isn't interested any more., and I can't really blame her, Melissa still loves her grandparents just the same.

My father still works full-time but my mother is bored most of the time, and has so much time on her hands, but it still makes no difference, I know now that they are both getting on in years and probably don't have the energy and I understand that completely, but when the grandkids were younger my parents were only a few years older than myself.

The funny thing is the time Melissa did stay overnight, I think My mother really enjoyed it to be honest.

I feel both my kids and my parents have missed out so much really and it is a shame, and my sister's children as well.

On really thinking about it , my mother does make more of an effort than my Dad, he is just too darn busy, he is a workaholic, he does not even pop into see me ever, only if he is with my mother or to bring me something like some meat for the freezer, which is nice, but all the same it would be nice to see more of him, I just have accepted it I suppose, but it still hurts just the same.

My parents are really good people, I almost feel ashamed saying this about them, but it is the truth,and they have been extremely good to me in many ways, I just wish they were more giving in this area.

I hope I don't let history repeat itself, and can endeavour to be there in a different capacity for any grandchildren I may have.

For those of you who have grandparents that spend time with you, and do things with you, please count your blessings, you are very lucky.