Am I evil?

[lbaker]

Right on carole.. (sticky beaks??)

[tikeyas_mom]

I know when i Graduated it was really important to me that my dates tux matched my dress... not sure why because I had a horrible time at my grad.

Anyways I dont think you are evil for that lol.

[catnapper]

As for him being immature and us letting it go this far... you are absolutely right! This is one of hubby's and my biggest fights. He still has "issues" of guilt for son's learning disability (though I don't know why) and issues of guilt over being a single father who worked 60 hour weeks and missed a lot of their activities. He lets the kids walk all over us and hands money out left and right... meanwhile we've got absoluetely nothing to eat in the pantry. But at least the kids are happy because they got what they wanted... in reality That's not what they NEED.

So here hubby made a HUGE sacrifice to get him to his senior prom. Does our son appreciate it? Not one bit. Does he have ANY understanding of money? Not in the least. We spent well over $200 for the prom and we still haven't bought the flowers. Thank goodness I can do the flowers myself and save about $40. And he tried to convince us he needed a limo... HA!

Yes, he is incredibly immature and needs to grow up - a lot. We sent him out of state last summer in an attempt to teach him some lessons abot hard work and humility.... but he forgot the lessons immediately after he learned them. He starts college on June 13th... it'll be interesting to see how well he does out there by himself without hubby bailing him out and making ME do his papers.

And yes, I'll let you all knw about hs reaction why hubby tells him about the yellow switch tonight.

[lbaker]

"Doing his papers" Boy, does THAT ring a bell. My D-in-Law is so proud of his grades and yet SHE's the one that does the papers for him. SHE'S the one that got on the honor roll grrrr But I can't say a word.

[NoahsMommy]

I think that by you switching his vest/tie without him knowing will cause more harm...I think he'll be immature and that may ruin his gf's time.

I would call the store and switch it back.

He has to learn someday that he needs to dress appropirately. If he can't respect his gf enough to do this SMALL thing for her, he has some growing up to do.

The fact he wasn't to wear Mickey Mouse stuff really says a lot. Sounds like he needs some more life lessons...but ones he needs to learn the hard way.

Gosh, I hope that wasn't harsh, Kim.

I bet its so hard being a parent. I'm such a control freak that this would bother the crap out of me too!!!

Hugs,
Kelly

[Oggyflute]

I think you did him a favour. If his GF, specifically suggested yellow, then you've given him an important lesson on realationships, and what your lady expects you to wear. It generally takes most blokes an eternity to learn this. Fortunately I had two fashion concious sisters growing up and If I couldn't get away with the hippy look, they ensured I dressed appropiately. (Carole did'nt have to do to much training with me )

[equinelover23]

I'm 14, and I buy most of my clothes. Every once in a while, my mom will say, "Let's go shopping, I'll buy you a shirt," and of course, I'm pretty happy about that. Then we get to the mall, I pick out a shirt I like, and she won't buy it for me because it's not her "style." I really don't think it should matter what her style is, since I'm wearing it.

When I buy my friends presents, I don't buy them something I like. I buy them something they like. (Even though I'm paying for it...)

So, I hope you can see my point. I don't think you should have made him wear something he didn't want to.

[Twisterdog]

You're not evil, of course .... but I do think you are wrong.

At age seventeen, he needs to make his own mistakes, live with the consequences and hopefully learn something from it.

[Luvin Labs]

Heck I'm torn on this.

You paid for it, at the last minute (?), for a guy who doesn't have a grasp on money issues (and many other things apparently). Plus his g/f would be PO'd if he didn't wear the yellow tux. Hopefully dad will have a serious discussion with son about compromising with an SO.

I could see paying for it if the kid was a little more mature, and responsible, and willing to compromise and not throw temper tantrums, but if that brat were my kid (hopefully not) I'd tell him some facts of life about money, and responsibility, and other things. I.e. make HIM get a job and pay for the tux himself (or you pay for it, and take money outta his paycheck every month/week).

Then again, if he wore what his girl didn't want him to wear, she might either like that tux, or be PO'd at him all night and possibly ruin prom. And/or break up with him (how long have they been dating?) after realizing he won't compromise or grow up.

I wouldn't want HERS ruined though. She'd be happy he's wearing yellow, but from the looks of things he'd be bratty the whole night (hopefully not)...

gotta see pics of kid in both outfits with girls outfit to really say, and know brat more...

Hmph... dunno.

letus know

[catnapper]

Thanks guys... the prom was last night and he looked perfect in the yellow He even admitted today how wrong he was (shocked the heck out of me... I enver expected him to acknowledge it! )

[Luvin Labs]

Originally posted by catnapper
Thanks guys... the prom was last night and he looked perfect in the yellow He even admitted today how wrong he was (shocked the heck out of me... I enver expected him to acknowledge it! )

woowhoO!

now ya gottapost up pics

[catnapper]

I had started a whole other thread on their prom, but here's one of the two showing off their colors.