Originally posted by catnapper
Sigh... he wanted to wear the Mickey Mouse black white and red vest & matching bow tie. It'd be cute if she wore black... like she did last year. We'd have no problem. But since she expressly asked for him to wear yellow we had a problem with it. I was willing to compromise and let him go with maybe a patterned tie that at least had SOME yellow in it (maybe tweetie bird???)
Okay...now I can voice my opinion....tee hee hee!

You know...personally, I feel parents shouldn't allow their kids to wear inappropriate/overly-exposing clothes, but when it comes to color, it should be a personal choice. Why? Because every individual KNOWS what color suits their complexion....what color they look good in....what color they feel good in.

I know there are some colors that look stunning on some people, and clothes in those colors look gorgeous, but....let's say someone told me to wear an orange dress. I wear orange at home...rarely...and just to sleep or workout, but I *KNOW* I look awful in orange. Okay, maybe not 'awful', but I look much better in other colors. Maybe he feels yellow won't look good on HIM. If he feels that way, I feel for him, because if there's a color I feel won't look good on me.......I would feel horrible the whole time I'm wearing it....even if others say it looks nice. I have this green outfit that my mom adores and always wants me to wear, but I NEVERRRRRRR wear it. I feel yucky when I wear it. The color just doesn't look good on me. He knows what colors he would feel good in...not you, not his dad, not his sisters, not his girlfriend.

Personally, I don't really like yellow on boys. It looks great on girls, but not on boys...in my honest opinion. If what he wanted was inappropriate or ugly, I would say you did the right thing, but when its a matter of color..........well...........he should be allowed to wear the color he feels comfortable in.

So....in conclusion....yep....I think you were wrong to secretly change his choice. The color of one's clothes is a personal choice, and as long as its a nice, decent color, I feel it should be his choice.

Regarding him not paying for it......My parents don't LET me pay for my stuff. I have to argue with them to let me pay when I need something. They tell me I should save my money.....I should use it later.....blah blah blah.....and that God has given moms and dads the responsibility to earn and spend on their children, so until I'm married, they feel THEY should pay for my stuff and that makes them feel good. Go figure...Maybe I'm spoiled...LOL!