His prom was NOT a surprize. He knew it was coming up and if he was firm about what he wanted he should have made arrangements himself. My own step-grandsons just think because they can walk all over their mother they can walk all over me. NOT! It's my house. Neither you nor your husband are "evil", I think you are making him finally face the real world. "you get what you pay for" and he hasn't paid worth squat. (I'm going through the same thing )