Kim I personally would not have changed it without telling him, I think I would have said well it is that or nothing mate, we are paying for it, however he really should have some choice I think in the matter, however I still understand where you are coming from on this matter.

I think it would have been better to set the ground rules from the beginning, by stating because you the one's paying for it, you will have some say in it, and compromise from there, my daughter will have her first end of year social , it is not quite as elaborate as a ball, but she already knows we will go dress hunting together and that I will have some say in it, however I would never want her to wear something I liked and she felt uncomfortable in.

I just hope there are no fireworks on the night, good luck with it all.