Wow...this site is fabulous! I really appreciate everyone taking ther time to help me and Harley and my Husband out. Alot of great advice here...I will have my husband start sharing all the everyday stuff, feeding, bathing, so on....its worth a try. I am guilty of letting sleep with us every night...he has every since he came home at 6 weeks. I tried when I first married but that was a lost cause....I ended up sleeping on the couch with him so he would stop crying! Problem with the peeing thing is that I NEVER catch him in the act...he is smarter than that..he always does it when no one is around Think my best bet is neutering....I am so scared to do that to him even though I hear it is better in the long run....it just seems so cruel. Is 3 years old....too Old??