My first thought is you are wrong to have done this. I feel bad for him since he is thinking he ordered one thing and getting something else. That is extremly sneaky. Where is the honesty? Why didn't your son and his date talk about colors before he ordered the tux in the first place? I think that should have been done first.

I know you are frustrated that you are paying all the bills for your son,but when you agreed to pay for the tux did you let him know that you would be picking out which one he wore? If that was the way you and your husband felt then that point should have been made very clear before you purchased the tux. I also wonder why you and hubby have to control what he wears.

Are you evil? Heck, NO! You are a parent! The hardest thing to be. Hang in there and good luck!