Our best friends adopted 2 little girls from China, so I know a lot from them. I am sorry to tell you, but it is still the habit to give up girls when they are firstborn. However, it is NOT possible to adopt a kid directly from a family. Only "registered" abandoned kids can be adopted. So what do people there do? They drop their girl in front of an orphanage, leaving absolutely no possibility to identify the baby. Then they make sure that the centre "finds" it . The baby is then registerd as a found and abandoned baby. Shortly after that, it is ready to be given up for adoption. The parents to be have to reside in China for about 1 month before they may leave with the baby. Our friends did this 2 times. They say that the period in China is hard, because of the hot weather, and the insecurity about the child. The day they left and got on the plane was the most happy day for them !

Sorry for not giving you better news, but this is the truth...

ps. We have 2 adopted kids too, one from Korea, and one from India