I don't know if I have to worry about an eating disorder with her - she has a healthy appetite. Last month she commented on "loosing wieght" then an hour later sliced herself a piece of chocolate cake that two people wouldn't be able to finish. I did not comment on it, because when I grew up, I had the food police watching everything I ate. I KNEW I was shoving a huge piece of cake into my mouth, I didn't need to be condemned about it. I will NOT do that to my daughter. I became a closet eater and binged when nobody was around. I want my kids to be free with what they eat, and not feel they need to hide or be guilty for it. So far, so good on that front.

I do worry that she has a bad image of herself, and her figure. And quite frankly, wearing the clothes as tight as she has been, she DOES look chunky. If she wore the clothes the right size, fit, shape, etc she would not look heavy in the least. I don't know if she's comparing herself to the way she USED to look (before boobs and hips sprouted) or if she's comparing herself to her classmates - half of whom have to have some sort of eating disorder. Then again, I look at the two "best friends" and those girls ARE a bit heavy, and both girls dress to small for their size as well.

I've never gone through this. I always accepted my body for what it was - good, bad, and indifferent. I never dressed too tight, too loose. I wear what fits and flatters. Sometimes I am accused of dressing too boring, but thats not the point. I dress for my size, and according to what looks best on me. I avoid certain colors, certain necklines, certain shapes. So its confounding me that she's doing this! It seems so logical to wear clothes that fit comfortably and what is going to make you look best, instead of uncomfortable too-tight things that make you look your worst.