I pretty much have put Brad and myself first since we got married almost 6 years ago..it was all about the kids up until then and they are grown and on their own. So now it is the Pamela and Bradley Show and we do what we want/when we want. And I don't even consider it pampering really..it is just a way of life any more. I feel like Finn's mom....take care of #1 or you are no good to no one else. And the better I feel about me, the happier I am and then Brad is even happier..lol