Yeah - I think the letter will give her time to consider what to say etc. etc. Hopefully she'll have the letter for at least a few days before she talks to you about it.

So often, when I'm put on the spot about something, I just blurt something out which I later wish I had phrased differently. This will give your mom plenty of time to consider how she'll phrase things so you understand her feelings, and to come up with any questions she might have for you, etc.

I hope she'll be accepting of your new SO. How have her parents treated you?

It is so difficult to be in a relationship that many people are not accepting of. For example, I have always gone for older men. My soon-to-be-ex husband is 13 years older than me, and my boyfriend is 18 years older than me. To complicate things even more, the three of us our friends (yes - just friends but try to convince people of that!)

We get the wierd looks and insensitive comments all the time. Fortunately, my parents are supportive and understanding.

I hope your mom will be supportive. You're being sensitive to her feelings, and I think she'll be sensitive to yours.

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