Dear Mimi,
My sincere sympathy on the loss of your cat. It's so sad, I don't know what to say. I can tell you that when we lost Sapphire, blue pt Siamese, her companion of seven years, Cleo, (lilac lynx pt) was as distraught as I was. We made a right pair, dragging around the house crying together. When I went out I hated having to leave Cleo and would get home quickly as poss. She wandered round and round the house calling for Sapphire for some weeks. She had witnessed the at-home euthanasia and sat vigil all night long beside the box in which Sapphire lay, covered in frangipani flowers with an aromatherapy candle burning, the night before I took Sapphy to be cremated. Next morning before I left for the crematorium, I told Cleo to say Goodbye and she leaned into the box and touched Sapphire with her nose. I have no doubt she knew exactly what was happening and was in the same grief as I. After that we moved house and Cleo was very clingy with me. It was nearly 18 months later that I woke after a dream about Sapphire, turned to Cleo and said "It's time, isn't it?" And that afternoon I went and found a blue point, Colette, and as they say, we all lived happily ever after ( A few hisses at first...)Cleo is now 16 and Colette is 6. I hope this helps you to understand your boy's behaviour, and that when you both feel ready, another kitty can come into your lives, not to fill the other one's space, that's never possible, but to create a space of her own in both of your hearts. In the meantime, our hearts are with you both. - TC, Cleo & Colette.