I just can't understand why it's so hard to leave my cats alone!
Kirsten,

The above quote says it all. Do NOT feel bad about venting. That's what we're here for.

I think you've been VERY tolerant of your stepfather. I wouldn't have been. You've told BOTH of them time and time again to abide by your wishes to leave Lily alone. It's your responsibility to protect Lily. Your stepfather is either REAL stupid or just plain doesn't care. He owes you AND Lily an apology. Until he does, you're better off without them visiting. Maybe you can agree on neutral grounds. But until your stepfather learns how to treat animals with respect, your place should be off limits.

Sorry you had to go through the hassle.

((((((hugs to you, Lily and Luna)))))))))