Originally posted by lbaker
I do have a daughter. Also a son. Also several grandsons. My mother recently died after a rather long painful illness, and yes.. she had a DNR notice and we had no doubts about what she did and did not want to have her last few months/weeks/days like. But I would pray to be honest enough with myself to know the difference between involuntary nerve spasms and recognition. Also to know the difference between wishful thinking and raw, cold reality.
True. But don't you think, as a mother, that seeing your child in a horrible, no-hope state for 15+ years would be more devastating than losing her to death? I would. That is the one thing that keeps me from being selfish when thinking of what I'd do in this situation with my husband. It would kill me to go to him every day, seeing him like that, than it would be to lose him to death and know that he was in peace. UNLESS I *knew* that he wasn't just experiencing involuntary nerve spasms, etc. Know what I mean?

I understand BOTH sides of the story, in all honesty (well, except for the fact that Michael has a girlfriend and children while still married to a woman in Terri's condition, which I think is despicable). We will never, ever know the cold hard truth so all we have to go on is what we read and what we feel we would do in a similar situation. I pray for all of those involved, most expecially Terri. She truly is getting the raw end of the deal.