Kirsten,I'm in total agreement with everyone here. Your apartment is YOUR domain, and just as your parents want you to respect their wishes and rules when you visit their house, they should show the same courtesy to you, and especially to innocent animals who are just eating.

We all support you here at Pet Talk. Don't beat up on yourself. Things will cool off between you and your mom, but that kind of behaviour from your stepfather is unacceptable.

Hugs - Tina