Deb and Sandra, thank you for helping to clear some confusion. The strokes I mentioned occurred in 1975, 1993 and 1995, none real recent. I possibly could have misunderstand what I was being told back in 1975 with my dad as I was quite a bit younger. In 1993, however, my sister-in-law called me to say that her husband had been upgraded from a respirator to a vent. Maybe it is classified slightly differently depending on how much it is assisting??

Caseysmom, I apologize if I sounded rude. It just bothers me when people state, as if it was a proven fact, that the husband is doing as she wished. No one really knows and there are just too many conflicting stories about what she would have wanted. I am certainly not convinced beyond a reasonable doubt.