How long has it been? I simply can't remember.

I tried having a second cat many years ago, a little male kitten, Dwayne. He was found by my brother when he was doing yard work. Dwayne was about 3 weeks old. We bottle fed him (Chip did), and he stayed with us for several months, but Mimi hated him. And it totally changed her personality to have him there. We finally had to find a home for Dwayne. The day he left, Mimi was back to being her sweet self.

Last year, when Butter "found" us, I felt the same thing would happen. And to a certain extent it did. Only this time, with Mimi being 6-7 years older, she decided she would hate him, but not us, thank goodness. Butter, as you know, has stayed. They do not love each other. Butter really isn't a cuddly type anyway, but at least they have figured out how to coexist.

You'll just have to play it by ear, I guess, and go with your heart. I do think the loyalty needs to lie with the one who was there first. I hope you can make it work. I'm sure others here will have some ideas for you.

Good luck!