Kim, don't be surprised if she denies that anything is wrong. Battered women/men always seem to protect their spouse.

Ok, here is another story: My parents. My parents just recently got divorced.....THANK GOD!! They were in this awful marriage for almost 50 years. I was SO glad that they divorced when they did because I didn't want to give them a 50th wedding anniversary party (yes, I'm the oldest). Both my sister & I agree that they should have parted many, many years ago but they didn't. So many people were surprised when they seperated, everyone thought they had the "perfect" marriage.......and they did, on the outside. My sister & I were the only ones that saw the "real" people that they were. My father ignored and didn't "allow" my mother to do anything. My mother would nag and nag and then near the end she would throw things at him (in a desperate attempt for attention) so he would get up and in her face. Was there physical violance going on? Yes. Did we do anything to stop it? Well, yes and no. We both moved out ASAP and when it started in front of us, we left. I'm not saying either one was wrong, nor right. You get to a point in a bad relationship that ANY attention, is attention. So you learn these bad habits. She always had bruises, and excuses for them. She always said that nothing was wrong, and even up to the last moment, she thought he would call and "tell" her to come home. Thankfully that never happened, because she would have gone back to him!

My best advice to you is mind your own business. This woman will probably not tell you the truth about what is really going on. Sometimes it DOES take two!! It still doesn't make it right, but no one can learn if someone keeps running in and rescuing them.

The next time you hear them going at it, simply call the police. All calls are anomoyous so you will be safe. You are only assuming what is going on over there, don't automatically think that one party is the "bad" guy only.

I've seen this first hand, and today 2 years after their divorce both of my parents are MUCH better off and both now agree that they should have done it sooner. Too bad too, they are both in their 70's now. People stay together for the dumbest reasons!