If it helps any Debbie , our Lexie would not even come on the sofa and sit near us, even though it has taken a year and a half, she now does that happily on her terms, infact today as I was snuggled up on the couch , she suprised the heck out of me , jumping up and sitting on my feet, I had a blanket over me as it was chilly this early morning, and I was reading a magazine, I was so thrilled, I praised her so much, and she looked like she understood, guess what she is still sitting there.,sometimes it just takes a whole lot of time.