The earlier consternation

[Karen]

Originally posted by aly
Thats what I meant, Karen. That you clarified the situation for Robyn.

I've been using bad wording on things all week and not portraying the right messages

I'm sorry. I can't even find the right words to say what I meant, but I think you know! Right?

Yup! We all have "words not mouth coming of out right" days! Guess it applies to keyboards, too.

And, Richard? I have had to stand between two "boys" (neither of them Paul, don't worry) so they wouldn't do MORE violence toward each other AFTER the beers have sunk in. So while you may think "men" do disagreements better, I do not beg to differ on that, I just DO differ!

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by Karen
And, Richard? I have had to stand between two "boys" (neither of them Paul, don't worry) so they wouldn't do MORE violence toward each other AFTER the beers have sunk in. So while you may think "men" do disagreements better, I do not beg to differ on that, I just DO differ!

I never said men do disagreements "better", they are just more decisive and get the nitty gritty out of the way faster, not smarter, faster.

Not a proponent of fighting to solve anything....Just weary at the time and effort wasted on frivolous arguements and petty incidents.

My mom said it best-

Hurt feelings never killed anyone.

And then, there is-

If someone tries to hurt you with words, show then how hurt you are by ignoring them and living your own life.

But her best, by far......

If you are suffering from consternation, try olive oil.

[PJ's Mom]

Originally posted by RICHARD
I see you enjoy the benefits of fiber, too!

Indeed. The olive oil works wonders.

Seriously, maybe the people whose feelings got hurt need to step back and think of people like Randi who have a whole lot more to worry about than someone saying something mean to them.

Let it go. It could be worse.

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by PJ's Mom


Seriously, maybe the people whose feelings got hurt need to step back and think of people like Randi who have a whole lot more to worry about than someone saying something mean to them.

A whole giant post from me and you hit it in one sentence.....

AMEN......'nuff said.

[Kfamr]

To let you know, i've been grieving for Randi, not knowing what to say.

I've even felt bad for feeling the way I have for the past few month or so because of Randi and her situation. Maybe I should suck it up, maybe I shouldn't care, but the point is I DO. And that should be enough. I've felt like CRAP this year. This year has not been happy for me, and this has just loaded on top of it.

Sorry my feelings aren't worthy enough for you, but you'll NEVER know until you're in my shoes.

I highly doubt you'd want someone to say "get over it", "step back", or something along those lines when you haven't been feeling well.

Thank you to those of you whom have been supportive... I really do appreciate it.

[sirrahbed]

QUOTE]Originally posted by Logan
Robyn has heard those words from me, privately. [/QUOTE]

I appreciate it it Logan. Robyn said that lots of folks were very kind to her! Your words and others, both publicly on this thread and privately are what helped her get through this.

My plea is to those who discussed her guilt, suggested she was lying and still did not believe her innocence after Karen tried to impartially state what she had discovered. DogLover9501 is back on her original account and quite reachable now. Please, focus your anger on the one who did these things to Kay and anyone else who may have been maligned.

I suppose it is time for *me* to put this behind. It is my mother-heart that aches for Robyn. She is really doing quite well and I find her to be a healthy, resiliant and strong young woman. Had I been the one accused, I am not sure I would have coped as well - and I am an adult.

[carole]

Kay I understand what you are saying, and just want you to know, your feelings are important to me as are Robyn's, this is not the first time I have seen you go through stuff like this, and it is sad, take care Sweetie and giant Hugs to you.

[4 Dog Mother]

Some people are more sensitive to things people say. It is easy for others to say ignor it, get over it, move on. But when you are having a tough time, when you are already not feeling the greatest about things in your life, the last thing you need is someone saying mean and cruel things about you and your pets.

I have done a lot of work with Marriage Enrichment. In one of the talks, there is a saying feelings are not right or wrong they just are. None of us can tell Kay how she should feel right now. I am 53 years old and it has taken a long time for me to not take to heart things people say - I don't care what anyone says about words, not hurting you - they do. Kay needs to be given the time and space SHE needs to work through this hurt.

I hope and pray that she will be able to do this and remain a part of Pet Talk. She will be missed by many if she decides to leave.

[carole]

4 Dog Mother you said exactly what I was thinking, but unable to put in such words, I agree with you 100 per cent.