Thank You for the advice, I really feel at odds about it all, I have to honestly say I am not grieving as such, I barely knew him, but as a human being I do feel sadness for his family left behind.

I feel I did not support my hubby last night, because he was so angry I had to keep him away, and I was a little mad at him for reacting so badly, he did come out in the end and told my other Brother n law that he had a damn cheek turning up here and to get off our property, and he did not say it as nice as that believe me.

I was torn between the two , I felt sorry for my other brother n law, who only came because he assumed it was the right thing to do.

It is different for me, as I am somewhat removed emotionally from the whole situation that did occurr, I still felt it all and went through it with my hubby, and that was hard, but it was not My family treating me this way, so I have to try to understand how my hubby still feels.

Yes it is a sad thing all around.