Sandra the dear wise soul has put this more into perspective for me, not that I am backing down on what I said, but she has given me time to reflect.

No matter how hard we try, when a person is not thinking rationally, it just simply cannot get through, as she put it to me " when someone perceives that they are being assaulted,feel threatened,they shut down and don't hear what you are saying", maybe this is the case here, I really don't
know.

No matter what anyone of us say to Tina, in the long run she will do what she wants to in the end.

I Can also hear and feel everyone's fustration here, and empathise with it, most have tried with all their heart to help Tina, and be there for her, I hope deep down she can oneday see this.

For now I can only hope for Tina to get help and stick with it, and find the happiness that she also deserves.