I didn't intend the original post to get deleted because there were good suggestions on both sides. I know the post starters tend to feel responsible when a post turns into an argument but they shouldn't. It is not your responsibility in how other people post or react.

It's good for people to share their ideas and thoughts but it is sad when it turns into this overgrown, tense, and insecure situation. I feel somewhat guilty in that I brought the issue back to light after the thread had seemed to die off, but there was a remaining feeling of tension, insecurity and resentment still going on and that was what upset me.