It depends on the other person - I base my behavior on them. If they make me feel comfortable and welcome, I will be open and friendly and chances are, we will become friends. If they remain cool and stand-offish, I stay quiet and while we may be cordial to each other, nothing more will come out of it.

I usually have an easier time making friends with men than women. All through high school, there was me and my group of friends (except my one best girl friend). Now we're all getting married and their wives range. One of their wives is such a sweetheart, she and I hit it off right away and after only knowing her for a little over a year, she was a bridesmaid in my wedding. She and I hang out all the time, with and without our husbands. Another friend's wife is cool towards me, so she and I have never done anything on our own.

So, it depends. The older I get though, the more I long to find more female friends. I've got four, plus my mom, that I am very close with so I'm doing better but I'd still like to make more... maybe it'll be easier once I start having children and meet women through them. :shrug: