Originally posted by ramanth
It really stings though when the subject is brought up and someone is like, "Oh I hate kids. Why would you want to have a baby?" and look at me like I'm going to give birth to a lethal virus.

I respect others decision to not want to have children... could you at least offer me the same respect?
I'm sorry that people have said things like this to you...but do please try to understand that a lot of people don't respect OUR decision either.

It can be frustrating and demeaning to hear day after day "You'll change your mind" "it's different when it's your own" "It'll change when you meet the right man" (I still hear this even though I'm engaged!) "Oh that's so SELFISH", "Who will take care of you when you're old?" "You don't really know what love is until you have a child!" "What if your parents thought the same way?" "Children are our future!" "You were a child once, too!" and a thousand other things that build up and after time a thick wall of resentment is formed.

90% of society backs your decision to have children, and a lot o the time it seems that the childfree only have ourselves. I do agree that the response you have gotten was rude and inappropriate, and I hope this may open one or two peoples' eyes to the fact that niether side likes to be demeaned.