Well I am another one in the crew that just doesn't care for children at all. I especially do not like babies. Just looking at a baby makes my skin crawl. I don't care for that sour milk/vomit smell that always seems to eminate from their bodies, nor can I tolerate the sounds they make.
My reptiles however, I simply adore, and fawn over all the time.
Squealing bratty kids drive me up the wall, and the first thing I want to do is run in the opposite direction. I don't like it when kids stare at me, I get extremely annoyed.
Kids just aren't for me. I don't have the patience to deal with them, and I just don't like them. Period. I am also not willing to give up the time, money, and energy required to raise a child to adulthood. I have alcoholism on both sides of my family as well, and that's a risk I also don't want to take, as alcoholism is genetically passed on. I've seen what my parents and sister are going through from it and to that I say - no thank you - I don't want to deal with that.
The way I see it - if you don't want to be a parent, you shouldn't be one - and nobody should even think they have the right to try to goad you into it.
Thinking back, I don't recall there ever being a time that I liked kids - even when I was one myself. I didn't like any of the kids that I went to school with - I thought they were heartless and cruel. I do remember the days before I stumbled upon No Kidding - when I believed that I didn't have a choice, that one day I would have children whether I liked it or not. I was horrified by the very idea, but I had been brainwashed into believing that it was my place as a woman, and that was how my worth in society would be measured. You can imagine my relief and happiness when I discovered NoKidding, and found that I DO have a choice. It wasn't long after realizing this that I scheduled my Tubal Ligation.
There's also the fact that given the sheer number of human beings on the planet right now, and the fact that the earth is far beyond its carrying capacity to sustain life for the long term, I thought it best that I not add to the problem. I also get annoyed when people try to tell me that there IS no population problem. They couldn't be farther from the truth. And preaching that god will provide somehow just doesn't fly too far with me. Then again, I'm a self-proclaimed Agnostic, whom at this point is bordering on Aethism, so in that respect, I have my own opinions. That is a whole other topic though.
I'm 30 now and I got sterilized when I was 29. It was the best decision I ever made in my life. I hope this answers your question.
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