Wow. Poor girl. Is there a way to contact her? It seems as if he was FLAUNTING his infidelity. I've seen this type of thing and all I could do was pick my chin up off the floor. It happened a few years ago to a very good friend of mine. She had a birthday party for her son and I caught her hubby and her BEST FRIEND smooching in the kitchen, my kids caught them in the garage - he was flaunting it in front of everyone but nobody said anything!

Then a week later, the hubby took my son to the park and the girlfriend showed up - he had used my son as a cover for his cheating! At that point, my son admitted the friend had been doing it all summer long, taking my son somewhere just to get out of the house for a little nookie.

We confronted my friend (nicely) and asked her if there was a problem in her marriage. She said "of course not." We said, well, everyone's seen him kissing your best friend, and he's been using our son as an excuse to go see her." She called us and our son a liar, but a week later, when they had dinner together - she caught him playing footsie with her He still denied it then! She had to catch them in a pssionate embrace to be convinced.

Long story short, she realized we had her best interest at heart, they entered counseling and are trying to put their marriage back together. It took her nearly two years to forgive us (bearer of bad news and all) but she's now in a happier place.

Also, my hubby's first wife was sleeping around on him before the wedding and after. He never knew, but everyone esle did. People who cheat count on their friends not saying anything because they know its something that nobody wants to expose. Say something to the fiance if you can. She'll hate you, but then realized that you helped her fix a big mistake.

We told my friend about her husband BECAUSE nobody ever told my husband and he's always said he wished he knew. He would rather know and be hurt than look like a fool.

Whew, I said a lot. I know people will disagree, and thats ok - differing opinions are good in this instance, I'm just offering my take and experience in such a thing. Please let us know how you handled it.