I was thinking about your posting last night and remembered a friend of mine. Her boyfriend was extremely controlling. He started out not liking her pet (a dog), then making mean comments about her weight and clothes. Gradually he cut off her contact from her support system. Eventually I sheltered her in my house for a couple of days so it was enough time for her to leave him. Men (or people) who are controlling at the beginning of a relationship usually don't get any better. I don't know if you can speak to the girl, but she needs to be aware that this maybe the beginning of a very BAD cycle.