Mary, my Amy cat does the exact same thing. Sometimes I think she would be better off as an only cat. Although I can pick her up, she still squirms and will inadvertantly claw me if I am not careful. Yet, when I let her outside for a while, then when she is ready to come back in, she will allow me to pick her up. Amy does not share food or space with any of the other 11 furkids. If I feed her, she will eat, but only if she is left alone. She will eat with Tiger.

It is just the personality of the cat. I believe that they will mellow out later, but for now we just have to learn to live with it.

......Wayne